It’s that time of year again when the interwebs are bursting with excited proclamations of new beginnings, unending lists of resolutions and a fierce determination to make this the best year ever.
Rather than adding more to my already complicated and busy life, I’ve decided to drop some of the dead weight that’s been holding me back and keeping me from being the woman I believe I’m meant to be.
Here are 5 things I’m leaving in 2018 and how abandoning those things will bring success in 2019!
FEAR – I will no longer allow fear to dictate my decisions.
Old me would have (and often DID) let the fear of the unknown keep me from reaching the goals I have set for myself. I am determined to TRUST in what I cannot always see and have FAITH that I am on the right path.
COMPARISON – My life, my path, my journey are not now and never have been meant to look like anyone else’s. This is MY story and I have learned to LOVE it in all of it’s unpredictable glory! My worth and value are not based on how well I stack up to someone else.
INSECURITY – I AM ENOUGH! I am perfectly and wonderfully made. The things that make me unique are not things that should bring me shame or that I need to hide. It is exactly those things that draw others to me. I am done feeling as if my quirks are defects. I love every part of myself. Especially the imperfect parts.
PERFECTIONISM – I used to believe that striving for perfection was an admirable trait. What took much longer to realize was that reaching for perfection in many areas of my life left me feeling hopeless, defeated and depressed. If I couldn’t devote the time or energy to complete a project or task to PERFECT standards, it simply wasn’t worth doing. This vicious cycle weighed heavily on my mental health. I believed that I was worthless, lazy and undeserving of love. I understand now that I simply need to do my best. Whatever my best is in this moment, is OK.
EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS – I will no longer be concerned with the opinions of others. I had a hard lesson in this at the end of 2018. There was a particular person who seemed to feel compelled to shit on my parade at every opportunity she could. Initially, her responses caused me to question my choices and second guess myself. I took a lot of time analyzing her words and actions and I can only guess that perhaps MY choices made her uncomfortable, that maybe it was HER fear of change that made her behave that way. This was a wonderful opportunity for me to realize that I am in charge of the changes I choose to make and it really doesn’t matter who approves or doesn’t.
Don’t let someone in the cheap seats have an expensive opinion in your life.Rachel Hollis
Leaving this garbage in 2018 opens up a host of new opportunities in 2019. Opportunities to become the absolute best version of myself and surround myself with strong women who share a passion for encouraging and empowering others.
It’s YOUR turn! What are you leaving in 2018 to make room in 2019?